Dear RV Shrink:
Like most couples, my wife and I have occasional disagreements. At home we can go to different parts of the house to calm down, but it’s more difficult in our trailer. When we get into a heated argument, she storms off to the bathroom and stays there for an hour or so. She has a little electronic game in there and plays draw poker. I can hear it beeping, which drives me nuts. On a nice day, I just leave the RV and take a walk, but when it’s cold or rainy I have nowhere to go. Do you think this is a good way for her to let off steam? Am I overreacting? —Jim
I guess it depends on the size of your rig. If you travel with a Casita there could be a problem trying to take a time out in your separate corners. In a bigger rig it could be more convenient.
Everyone needs a little time alone. I’m a long distance backpacker. My wife said to me last year, “There are things I love about you that you never do anymore.” I said, “Like what?” She said, “Like being gone.”
Living long term in a small space can challenge the best of relationships. Having your own space can be a bonus many people do not think of when deciding on rig size. Having separate interests can be a good thing.
Arguments are not uncommon. Everyone handles them differently. If this is your spouse’s way of cooling off, get a pair of earphones or plugs and wait it out. A 25-pound backpack works pretty well, too. —Keep Smilin’, Richard Mallery a.k.a. Dr. R.V. Shrink
Editor: Here’s a video from RVtravel.com and long-time, full-time RVers Joe and Vicki Kieva, on “Finding alone time while full-time RVing.”
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