Saturday, July 24, 2021
Saturday, July 24, 2021

10 tips about how to live together full-time in an RV

Do you think you and your spouse or partner can live together 24 hours a day, seven days a week in a few hundred square feet of space? Put that way, it seems daunting. Yet thousands do so happily in an RV.

Consider that for many of these couples, one or both have been working and out of the house for years until right before they took off together in their RV. So they’ll have two adjustments. Not only must they adjust to living in a tiny space, they must adjust to living together constantly. Either one can be a big adjustment. Adjusting to both together can strain the relationship. A little knowledge and planning can ease the way into all this togetherness.

At first, full-time RVing may seem like you are on vacation. But as the days pass, it may feel like too much togetherness when you live together 24/7. How do you cope? Here are some suggestions from other RVers who have successfully lived the full-time life.

Here are 10 techniques you can use when you live together 24/7:
1. Personal space: Have your own bit of space, however tiny. You might stake out a certain place to sit in the evenings or a place to work on crafts or hobbies. Claim a cupboard or bin underneath for the things you like to do: read, carve, bead, knit. Do not go into your spouse’s cupboard without permission.

2. A retreat: The bedroom or perhaps a corner can be a “retreat” for whomever is needing a little “space.” If one of you heads to the bedroom, you can say something to the other, or the other should ask permission to enter. Using the bedroom as personal space shouldn’t, however, interfere with the other’s bedtime.

3. Different bedtimes: One spouse may already stay up a little later or wake up earlier. This gives the other a little “alone” time.

4. Marriage saver: Whoever watches TV alone should use headphones. The same goes for music unless both people want to listen. When one partner wears headphones, both feel a sense of privacy.

5. Solo activities: Do some activities by yourself. You may be traveling in close quarters but that doesn’t mean you have to be joined at the hip and do everything together. Walking, biking, walking the dog, shopping, rig maintenance can be done alone. Go to a movie by yourself.

6. Go off for a day on your own. Kay Peterson, one of the founders of the Escapees RV Club, said when she was feeling like she needed some space, she would tell her husband she needed a “Kay day.” She might go to the library or walk around a mall — something on her own. It didn’t need to involve spending money, just some time away. Invariably these days were renewing and she had things to share with her husband.

7. Get involved: If you are staying at an RV park or resort, check to see if there are any activities going on in the park or community that might interest you. Invite your neighbors over for coffee or an afternoon snack. If you’ll be there several days, you could organize a get-together to work on a hobby like writing, beading or quilting. Men can meet other men by raising the hood of their truck or motorhome.

8. Find friends: Join an RV club or interest group within it so you can have individual friends as well as couples who are friends. Working or volunteering on the road can give you time doing your own thing plus the chance to interact with others.

9. Recognize stress: Recognize when you are feeling stressed. Packing up and changing locations every day or often can be stressful. Schedule some days to putter around and for rest and relaxation.

10. Communicate better: Improve your communication skills. Here are two techniques. One is to argue by the numbers. When you have a difference of opinion, state how important it is on a scale of one to ten. Often an item is very important to one and not to the other, so that makes the decision easy. If you both rank a difference of opinion high, then negotiate: Many decisions will become non-issues. The other is to designate one day a week for disagreeing with each other — say Tuesday. And, you can’t write anything down! On Tuesday, discuss any of the issues that you still remember!

Most couples are closer to each other and are better friends for RVing together. The pressure of life can be too difficult for some, however, and end a marriage. It’s more likely the couple would return to a more conventional lifestyle where they have more physical space and their own activities.

If you recognize your needs and those of your partner for personal physical and psychological space now and then, you can enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle. Keep in mind that your partner may need more or less space than you do. Each must take responsibility for themselves and find ways to meet their needs. Always keep in mind not to take your partner’s genuine need as a personal affront to you or your relationship.

This article first appeared on RVbasics.com.

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Cathy
20 days ago

We operate on the veto system. We’re each free to make couples decision… if something is an issue, it’s either a soft veto, negotiation on, or hard veto, it crosses a personal line. That opens up lots of discussion & insight into what makes us each tick.

Diane Mc
20 days ago

We are very blessed. 21 years ago I retired. Six months later convinced, not yet my husband, to retire too. We aren’t fulltime, but take 3 trips a year that total about 4 months. At home or in the motorhome we are together 24/7 about 90% of the time. At home he has a shop for his race cars, although these last 4 or so years hasn’t spend as much time there & many times if he is, I’m helping him. I take granddaughters to my Mom’s once a week for a visit. We are pretty much in sync with all things RV travel so that makes it much easier. Silly as it may sound, if one of us has to run an errand we will ask the other “do you want to go for a ride”. More times than not, we do. Lol. We have our moments in both RV & home, but had fights. In fact we’ve gotten better instead of worse. Life is too short. Many things that create friction are in the end so trivial & not important. We pretty much are each other’s best friend & enjoy being together.

Deborah Mason
20 days ago

We’re lucky. While we never became full timers, we have spent a month or so at a time in our RV. Since we met at work, and lived at work, we’ve been pretty much 24/7 from day 1. In September we’re will have been married 39 years. So, I think we’re off to a good start.

Ellen
20 days ago
Reply to  Deborah Mason

Woohoo, Deborah! Hubby and I are pretty much inseparable, too — we got together too late in life to look forward to 39 full years of marriage, but we’re thankful for every one of them. Congratulations to you and yours!

Lisa Adcox
20 days ago

We are a couple who enjoys being together but we do have alone time. He goes to bed early while I am a late to bed. He is up before me also. He sometimes likes to ride around on his bike alone while I am watering flowers or cleaning around the site. Little things like that are a good thing.

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