A downside to full-time RVing

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Brenda and David

By Brenda Bott
OutsideOurBubble.com
Whether you have been full timing for a while like my husband David and me, or are new to full timing, or are still in the research phase, the following video may be relevant. While most people think about the travel and the adventure and visiting places on your bucket list, there is another side to full timing that is most often not talked about and ignored. By that I mean the disconnection you may feel from your family, friends and a community. A disconnection that can sometimes lead to depression.

David and I did not consider this when we were looking to travel full time. We both grew up in one area of the country. Most of our family is in this one area. Our friends we grew up with are all in this one area. When we left this area to travel full time, to get “Outside Our Bubble,” we were good for a while. Seeing new things and experiencing new things. New cultures, new foods, meeting new people.

I won’t go into to much detail here because I feel what David says in the video says it all. I did not know he was making this video but once I saw it, we both knew it had to go online and be said publicly. He wears his heart on his sleeve and I love him for that. He is honest and a good man and I am glad that we found each other 22+ years ago. We have both been there for each other in good times and hard times and I could not have picked a better partner to travel down the road with and have our various adventures.

We wanted to put this video out there to show that traveling full time is not all hearts and rainbows. Cupcakes and puppy dogs. Unicorns and, hummm, whatever. There is another side to full timing. The “disconnect” that some of us may feel. We hope this video helps paint a larger, more complete picture of the full timing lifestyle by mentioning something you may have not thought about if looking to go full-time.

Visit David and Brenda’s website, Outside Our Bubble.

 

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Alvin

Thanks for a wonderful video David. The lady and I (who I often refer to as “the CEO”) love the four seasons we experience living in Alberta Canada. I’m a long retired mechanic, vintage vehicle restorer/automotive writer, who would be in a lot of pain (mentally not physically) , full-time RV’ing.

We’ve thought long and hard about it but the pros of rambling 3-4 months of the year then coming home to all we have build over a very long marriage (51 years) could never be replaced in a full-time format.
I do understand the attraction for those who enjoy the lifestyle and love it – and there certainly are aspects of that format I envy folks for. But for me, as much as I love traversing long lonely oft forgotten by-ways far from the noise, hustle and bustle, meeting new people, visiting those museums, art walks, farmers markets etc etc, I still love that turn down the lane, where I park the rig, swing open the garage door, set-up the welding table and fix the metal fatigued leg on the bike rack, and paint it back up, a small project which would have cost me $200 to have someone else do while on the road.
As an aside to this, we’ve noticed those folks with Super rigs like the Bott’s have, are much more likely to either have a bricks and motor at their disposal, or have the bucks to return to one. May I suggest that those who have sold out, and can never return to B&M are more likely to suffer – FT travellers remorse – when they realize there is no going back to what they had.

Carl J. Manganaro

It’s the beginning of our fifth year we left my hometown of Carlsbad, New Mexico. We sold our house and (mostly) all our possessions, bought a 36′ fifth wheel and truck to pull it, and left the prosperous little town in the rear view mirror four years ago. I struggled with the feeling of leaving behind lots of family, friends, and acquaintances which I knew I would miss until I came across the following quote: “You get a strange feeling when you’re about to leave a place. Like you’ll not only miss the people you love but you’ll miss the person you are now at this time and this place, because you’ll never be this way ever again.” —Azar Nafisi

As I look back, I realize that we have become used to the lifestyle of full-time RV’ing. We’re not rushed; so we can take time to discover and enjoy any area of the country for either weeks or several months before we need to head down the road. We also like meeting the people while we’re either camped out or shopping at the local stores and farmers markets. It’s one of the benefits of living this lifestyle. Nobody knows your past; and so you behave as you’ve been this person all your life. And as you carry your personality with you everywhere you go and treat others with kindness and respect, you find that people appreciate you for how you interact with them.

I love this lifestyle we’re living and know that it’s not for everybody. We still have things we’re attached to and can’t live without, including family and friends. We also have this tiny home to repair and maintain as we roam from place to place. I know when it comes time to stop doing this, we’re going to want to have a smaller place to live in , on a big piece of property, with a nice utility room, workshop, and a spacious bathroom! Peace.

John Koenig

Today, it’s SO easy to communicate electronically that, I don’t see the problem here. FaceTime, Skype etc makes it easy to stay connected. Other than NOT wanting to be in upper NYS during winter months, just plan to make two or three treks a year back to your “old stomping grounds” (as it looks like you’re currently doing) during the “favorable months” (April ~ October?) to “get your fix”. Two ~ four weeks in your old home area followed by two ~ three months (or more) traveling and exploring. For “special occasions” you could always fly back for an extended weekend (after which time you, and your host might be happy to end the visit).

I’m puzzled by the way you refer to your birthday. You say: “this year, it’s November second”. Does that date change depending on the year? I could understand it better if your birthday was February 29th. 😉

I’ve been RVing as a solo since my first trek back in 2010. I retired in 2011 and became an extended time RVer and then, in 2018, sold my “stick & brick” thus becoming an OFFICIAL Full Time RVer. Maybe it helps that I can be clueless and thus, haven’t yet experienced what you’re going through 😉

I too am originally from NY (born and raise on Long Island). I am SO happy to be off LI and out of NY (I realize that upstate NY doesn’t have many of the problems that downstate experiences). The ONLY thing I miss about my house is the nice LARGE shower and the whirlpool tub. I speak with family and old friends regularly. Perhaps my point of view will change once I have a few more years as a full timer behind me; only time will tell.

I hope you feel better soon!

Karen

This has been my greatest fear and why we are moving more toward snowbirding to be out of New England for the Winter and then returning home for the Spring-Fall seasons. I think it would be the best of both worlds.

Mari Harvey

No you are not the only one who feels this way!! Very new to this, only since June, but already we have felt the need to be close to family and friends more than we realized we would. Thank you for sharing!!

Bob Godfrey

Thanks David for that excellent, heartfelt video. We have been full-timing for 6 years now and every once in awhile I get to feeling the same thing after being “on the road” for a few months and I look forward to returning to “home base” yet we too do not have a brick and mortar home anymore. It’s simply the social aspect of the importance of a home community.

Thanks again for expressing your thoughts here.

Nick DiPietro

Gotta have a place to come back too. Three months max for us and home.

Rebecca Thompson

Thank you David for a terrific, sensitive, thoughtful look at the flip side. We have long thought about this lifestyle – we are still working but constantly flipping that coin. Thanks again for your honesty.

Calvin Rittenhouse

Thank you for this topic. You have illuminated a subject I have rarely seen in my studies of full-timing, and one that concerns me. (My travels have been short-term.) Your suggestion of finding a place to spend months at a time, rather than a week or two, makes perfect sense to me. I even have a place in mind (Tucson), but until I saw this I did not have confirmation that full-timers have (or can have) this issue.

Tommy Molnar

A great video showing, as David mentions, the ‘other side’ of full-timing.

While we love to be out for 4-8 weeks at a time, we still really like coming ‘home’ to our house, if only to re-plan, re-load, and take off again.