Sunday, October 2, 2022


New virus infects human population. You have a say in keeping it away

There’s a new virus attacking the country. In my opinion, the lack of civility has become a full-blown pandemic. I see this new virus everywhere—in the news, on the road, in grocery stores, in the workplace, and even in campgrounds. Can this pervasive illness kill our society? Our country? Should we be concerned about it?


The “lack of civility disease” has distinct symptoms:

  • Knee-jerk, hostile reactions before thoughtful consideration is given
  • Name-calling, demeaning or belittling of others
  • Frequent use of disrespectful and/or threatening words or attitudes
  • Inability to sympathize or empathize with others
  • Rude words and behaviors explained away with excuses or self-justification

It’s contagious

When the COVID pandemic first began, it seemed isolated to a small, remote area—way over there, far away. Remember watching the numbers? Each day, news reports included the number of new COVID cases and deaths due to this disease. As long as the numbers in our immediate community stayed low, few people became concerned. But as the sickness spread, it soon became evident that COVID could not be contained. The numbers skyrocketed and people everywhere began to panic.

Just like COVID, lack of civility is very contagious. At first, loud, obnoxious behavior seemed relatively isolated, even contained. But just as with the pandemic, one rude word caused another. Then another. One brutal act seemed to lead to another and yet another. Vitriol spiraled out of control. The lack of civility spread. Now it’s everywhere.

Stop the spread

No doubt today’s media platforms help to further our current social pandemic: lack of civility. From politicians to movie stars to a single driver with road rage, we see symptoms of uncivil words and actions on a click-by-click basis. How can we stop the spread? What can we do when we’re constantly hammered with examples of this pervasive societal sickness?

It’s not easy. Doing the right thing never is. We all can stop the spread if we make an effort to do the right thing: Be civil. Or as the dictionary defines it: courteous and polite.

Be civil. Even if the other person is rude and loud and belligerent. It’s not easy, but in my opinion, it’s what must happen to restore healthy civility to our country.

A soft word turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

[Feel free to leave a thoughtful, civil comment, i.e., please don’t prove Gail’s point.]


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1 month ago

New virus infects human population.
Thank you, Gail Marsh, this just might be the best story I have read in RV Travel.

Tom S
1 month ago

This extends to the way people drive, they don’t seem to realize the consequences of their actions affect others and just don’t care.

Harold Bates
1 month ago

Psalm 19:14, words to live by, plus the 2 Great Commandments say it all.

Wolfe Rose
1 month ago

I dont think “don’t discuss money/s*x/religion” is a very smart strategy… that’s exactly how evil grows, in shadow and tolerance. Instead, I openly discuss ALL topics respectfully. No, it doesnt make me many friends because sadly most people LIKE their brand of ignorance. By that, I mean most don’t LOOK for other views once they have one. For me the variety of disparate, reasoned, sustainable views is FASCINATING… but I’m weird. And the “truth” is always a mix of those options.

I often say “i’m NOT discussing politics, I’m discussing my own philosophy.” This is what I’ve seen and what experience made me think… I don’t have or vote for a team (party), but based on what ignorant laws destroyed my last family, or crushed my business, or are currently harming my kids. No politics, just defensive views against BOTH parties racing to the bottom.

So don’t bury your head because you don’t like conflict… TALK to the other guy and see why he disagrees with you.

1 month ago
Reply to  Wolfe Rose

You make strong, valid points. Thanks!

1 month ago

We have no one to blame but ourselves.

We encouraged team play by giving trophies to everyone — deserving or not, contributors or not. We allowed children to do unlimited outside activities, but never required them to do chores at home. We showered them with gifts/toys, most unearned and often unneeded. We made our children the center of the universe instead of part of it.

We have too many times gone to bat for our children instead of letting them stew in their own juices — ask any principal or teacher! In every facet of our lives, we have put winning above all else. The focus on standing up for oneself has turned into standing on top of everyone else, if needed.

We have separated ourselves even more by culture, race, religion, gender because we no longer understand tolerance…or have the patience for it.

The bottom line is not difficult: Train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it.

Apparently we just didn’t have the time.

Darla VanAlphen
1 month ago

We have fallen into “Us” against “Them”. It doesn’t matter if it’s political, sexual, skin color or religion, everyone takes sides instead of remembering we are all Americans. No amount of favoritism or special laws can change the past. It’s only in getting to accept each other as we are that will allow us to move forward.

RV Staff(@rvstaff)
1 month ago

Thank you for those wise words, Darla. Have a good evening/night. 😀 –Diane

Larry Lee
1 month ago

Thank you for bringing up this topic and asking for suggestions of potential solutions we can apply. I came across a Bible verse recently that I think can be used effectively in all our lives (no matter what religion or no religion):
Galatians 5:22-23
22But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!
The point here is we are free to live with these attributes in our lives: A) from a secular point of view–just because there is no law against them!, and B) from a Biblical point of view because our lives can be filled with God’s Spirit which results in increasing these qualities in our lives.
Seems like a potentially Win-Win situation.

Joseph Phebus
1 month ago

Too many “victims” and not enough problem solvers or those offering constructive criticism or alternative ideas.

There always seems to be a few who believe the government or politicians are the source of their never ending misery. If you’re unhappy, write a letter with your solution, volunteer or take time to listen and find the points of agreement or commonality before spouting off. This country was built on people willing to set aside their differences, roll up their sleeves, and working together to make this country better than they found it for future generations. And for those who can’t seem to find anything constructive to say, “Get off the cross, we need the wood.”

1 month ago
Reply to  Joseph Phebus

Very well said!

1 month ago

I think it’s a virus of the internet kind, where people can say mean and hurtful things without any consequences, anonymously behind their keyboards…

Uncle Swags
1 month ago

This started long before Covid. Covid helped expose weaknesses in our medical system and the politicians making bad decisions. We should be angry over how things appear as we remain the only truly free country in the world and that has been under attack since we formed this otherwise wonderful Republic.

Karen Bates
1 month ago

As we have traveled this past year, we have been blessed with very few incidents of this pandemic. We both always try to be pleasant with anyone we meet and you will usually get that in return. Even just a smile will get one in return. We don’t watch the news because of the division that the media is creating. Every campground we have been in this year has been very pleasant.

Tom H.
1 month ago

Too many “entitled” people in the world today and our society isn’t helping. Almost daily you can read, see, or hear about how some organization or group wants freedom to do as they see fit and our government agrees. Truth is that everyone and everything can’t be acceptable and right. You can’t have “right” without “wrong” or”acceptable” without “unacceptable”. Its okay to say no or that you can’t have your way.

1 month ago

My motto always has been “you’re either part of the problem, or you’re part of the solution”‘
Sometimes it works to set a good example, sometimes not.

Gary Yoder
1 month ago

Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
This is what we as a Nation need to practice, problem solved.

Leslie Schofield
1 month ago
Reply to  Gary Yoder

Yes, thank you.

1 month ago

Patience (the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.) is a virtue, keep calm and if you pretend to be nice eventually you won’t be pretending anymore. It will become a part of you.

1 month ago

The best advice I got 60+ year’s ago was, “if you want to stay friends with people and relatives, don’t argue about politics, religion or money “.

Bob p
1 month ago
Reply to  Bill

That was good advice 60 years ago, with the politicians of today it’s very hard not to discuss politics as everybody is seriously affected by politicians.

Tommy Molnar
1 month ago
Reply to  Bob p

True story, Bob.

1 month ago
Reply to  Bob p

You elected them.

Uncle Swags
1 month ago
Reply to  Ron

Yeah but what choices are we given? Therein lies the problem – a rigged system.

Joe Goomba
1 month ago
Reply to  Uncle Swags

You indeed are part of the problem described in the story above.

1 month ago
Reply to  Ron

This is “exactly” what the writer is talking about.

1 month ago
Reply to  G13

Yes, I was going to say something like that, Ron. Thank you! I will say to everyone, “stop believing what you hear or read in or from the media, including social media.” It’s mostly garbage, and biased one-sided … We are not getting the complete story on any subject these days. Then, vote the current power-hungry liars out of our governing bodies.

1 month ago
Reply to  Ron

And elections have consequences. Unfortunately, everyone is suffering the consequences now. I just hope we survive another two years of the consequences.

1 month ago
Reply to  Dr4Film

And here is the problem discussed in the article.

Joe Goomba
1 month ago
Reply to  Tom

Exactly, Tom.

1 month ago
Reply to  Bob p

I still go by that advice and it works even with the political anger going on today.

1 month ago
Reply to  Bob p

I’m not aware of politics affecting my life. I don’t blame others, I take care of myself and mine.

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