Thursday, March 23, 2023


Would you call yourself more of a “joiner” or a “loner”?

If you had to describe yourself as either a “joiner” or a “loner,” which would you choose?

Perhaps this scenario (pre- or post-pandemic, of course) will help you answer our poll question of the day: If you were at home (or in your RV), in your comfiest clothes (pajamas, sweatpants, slippers, etc.) and you got a call from a friend, “Hey, _____! Our friend _____ is having a get-together tonight. They invited everyone to be there in an hour. Want to come?” Would you leap off the couch and start to get ready? “Sure, I’ll see you in an hour!” Or would you look down at your slippers and pull the blanket up a little higher. “Nah, sorry. Not tonight.”

Now, if you said yes or no, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re either (it could’ve just been a bad night, that’s all). But if you had to pick, which would you select? We’re looking forward to seeing the results.


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2 years ago

If you are on Social Security and Medicare you are part of a Socialist program. Almost by definition then, a ‘joiner’.

2 years ago
Reply to  Bill

Total failure of logic and the theme of the survey.

2 years ago

i have been a joiner all my working life,
even after retirement I was a joiner. But I have noticed maybe the last couple of years that I have begun to say no and I am fine with it. Easier to do this last year as my wife and I have just stayed home pretty much except shopping for groceries and doctors appointments due to the Covid issue. I want a simple uncluttered life, more time with my wife, family, last but not least my friends…And that now too feels fine.

Judy S
2 years ago

I don’t identify with either extreme. Same for type A or B personality and introvert/extrovert.

2 years ago
Reply to  Judy S

You’re like me a omnivert. I love group gatherings and I love alone time

David Binkley
2 years ago

Being alone is different than being lonely.

2 years ago

I would rather watch from a distance. Worked around many people and supported many work groups in my working years. Just tired of dealing with all types of personalities. In a large group I will usually just sit and listen

2 years ago
Reply to  Joe

Joe, were you asked to describe me! lol

2 years ago

I’m not above sitting around for hours just enjoying life or jumping up and scurrying around for hours. Friends and family have come to know which “mood” I’m in and it works great for me. But it’s too late in life to change now

2 years ago

I thot I was a loner as I do not like groups of people even if I know all of them. One on one, I am fine. THEN I REMEMBERED – I spend every day with all of these people at RVTravel !!, AND ENJOY IT !

Bob P
2 years ago

I checked loner but I think of myself as independent. I have joined many things in my life but only participate to a certain level. I’m not a joiner in that I join in on everything that comes up. I reserve my participation to the point where I’m not part of the “crowd”. As part of the UAW when they came around telling how great the democrats are I didn’t follow suit, I vote for the person I think is best no matter what their affiliation is. What I’m saying is I’m my own man and nobody is going to change me.

2 years ago

I checked loner. Not that I couldn’t be found on a small group having a good time. But I am not a last minute individual. Don’t tell me an hour before, those are the plans that go wrong. Give me a schedule less hiccups.

Bob Palin
2 years ago

If you spend a lot of time with even one other person you are not a loner.

Ron Lane
2 years ago

Being a Type B personality, Im definitely a loner and will normally go out of my way to avoid others except for very close friends and family of course. I will join others if they initiate the conversation/activity, but normally I like just being left alone. My better half on the other hand, will walk up to total strangers and start up a conversation and has many, many friends…joins clubs, groups and volunteers for just about anything. Definitely a Type A. It’s true, opposites attract.

Bob P
2 years ago
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Grant Graves
2 years ago

It is interesting that three quarters of the respondents say they are loners. What I notice at RV parks is that while most RV folks are fine with the small space and being alone or with their SO most of the time. They will stop what ever they are doing and visit with other RVer’s for hours and the group can grow or shrink as it will. Most are wonderful people and will help with anything they can. Some of the kindest and friendliest folks I’ve ever met.

2 years ago

I’m not exactly a loner but I don’t join clubs because I hate attending meetings. I worked in Silicon Valley for a major company and was used to fast paced meetings with a tight focused agenda.

Most club meetings are slow, disorganized and unfocused with the same issues unresolved month after month.

I’m not patient with idiots.

Sink Jaxon
2 years ago
Reply to  Irv

Hmm…a little humility might suit you better.

Philip Sponable
2 years ago

If you talk to people outside of work you are a ‘joiner’…

Neal Davis
2 years ago

I answered “loner,” but I am not sure and neither is my wife. I definitely dislike being in large groups (e.g., entering a college stadium for a football game), but I enjoy being in small groups that could approach 50 people (as some of my college cross-country reunions have had). I do not talk to people on airplanes regardless of the length of the flight. I can go days without seeing anyone other than my wife, so maybe “loner” is the right answer for me.

Bob Weinfurt
2 years ago

I couldn’t vote for one or the other. It depends on with who, what the activity is, and what else is going on.
I’ve definitely been a loner during the pandemic, boondocking in good weather and hunkered down at home for the winter.

Wayne Braxton
2 years ago

Loner for sure. Even though we do attend group functions and participate locally we seldom “join”. After so many years of military and corporate regimentation we prefer doing our own things. Each to their own but we prefer to march to our own directives not some social or fraternal “rule” or SOP.

2 years ago

I read a good explanation which helped me better understand the two types. Introverted doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy socializing. It means we need quiet time to recharge. Extroverted doesn’t we don’t like alone time but our internal batteries are recharged by lively interaction with other people. And we need both types and the in-between hybrids to keep life from being monotonous.

Wayne Braxton
2 years ago
Reply to  Jill

Great anology. I agree.

2 years ago

I didn’t used to be a loner but since my boyfriend died, I find myself becoming more and more a loner. Of course, covid-19 hasn’t helped. But, since I like my company, I’m okay with being a loner.

2 years ago

I am a joiner, married to a loner. It can be challenging. I’ve had to learn to quit committing us to activities and started reaching out to groups that I can join independently. The pandemic really put a crimp in that but I’m hoping for a normal life again one day.

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