Couple having trouble downsizing to RV full time

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Dear RV Shrink:rvshrink
My wife and I have been traveling for a couple of years and have decided we like this RV lifestyle enough to pull the pin and sell our home. The problem is we have many family heirlooms that we just can’t sell. We have been cultivating our detachments for several months, but there are many family items we just can’t part with. Is this a common problem? How should we handle the family jewels? —Family Problems in Florida

Dear Family:
These items are called heirlooms for a reason. You give them to your heirs. Now sounds like a great time to do that. Another way to handle it is to pretend you’re dead. Now that you’re dead, what is going to become of the family heirlooms? That should give you some direction as to where they will end up.

Another more expensive option is storage. For those on the fence in deciding whether full-timing is for them or not, storage seems to be the better choice. You may decide to drop anchor again, buy a house and furnish it. At that time you may miss the family heirlooms. A combination of these ideas would be to let your heirs store them for you for a couple years. You may have a family member that has extra storage space or may want to use some of the items in their home. If you don’t have any heirs, turn these items into oral history. Sell them at an auction and tell stories about them for the rest of your life. I know how you feel. It is hard to give up things that have good memories attached to them. You can also take pictures of the items before giving them up to remind you of the memories.

My dad had stuff. My mother always said he would go to the dump with one load and come back with two. When he died he had three generations of stuff. I had a yard sale just so older people would stop by and tell me what some of the items were.


Even though we live full time in a motorhome, we still have a small place for stuff. You might consider down-sizing. We have a beautiful natural piece of property, low taxes and one of the best campsites in Michigan. We come back a couple months every year to regroup. I enjoy being able to work on the rig and have all my tools handy.

It is surprising how each year things become less valuable to you. It’s like throwing out ballast to keep the balloon airborne. Think of this as an opportunity to be creative with your lifestyle. Don’t do anything rash. There is always more than one way to skin a cat, if you’ll pardon the old but now non-politically correct expression. Take your time and consider all your options before deciding what is most important to you. —Keep Smilin’, Richard Mallery a.k.a. Dr. R.V. Shrink

Editor: AARP has a very helpful book by Marni Jameson: “Downsizing the Family Home: What to Save, What to Let Go” – which offers “practical wisdom and heartwarming advice so you know with certainty what to keep, toss or sell” for any reason for downsizing. Learn more or order at Amazon.com.

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2SheckleNomad
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2SheckleNomad

I took two ministry trips several years ago. These both lasted about 5 or 6 months, and I pretty much toured the southern states. During the second one, my children were cleaning the shed, which helps overflow from a family of packrats. I had already moved into a shed-sized dwelling, and gotten rid of a good chunk then just to clear my head. As they were cleaning, they found my old trunk of keepsakes that I let them play in sometimes as children, and called me to ask if they could ‘play’ in the memory box (they were getting by… Read more »

Earl Balentine
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Earl Balentine

I always remembered what Ann Ladders once said “If you haven’t used it in a year, you don’t need it. You can always rent it”. My brother-in-law had old truck that he put into storage for a few years. During the time in storage the thieves stoled the wiper blades, bumpers, mirrors etc and the money he paid for the storage exceeded what the truck was worth. My son-in-law stored a lot of baby keepsakes in the attic. Years later he went to retrieve it and it was all discolored dried out and cracked, totally worthless. I had several friends… Read more »

Vanessa A Simmons
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Vanessa A Simmons

In Sweden, it is called dostadning, a hybrid of the words for death and cleaning. The idea is to give away the things you cherish to those you love so they can cherish them and you receive the joy of seeing them happy. That is if your loved ones want any of the stuff you have.

SGM D
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SGM D

As I had found when downsizing, it was difficult to get rid of everything. So a storage locker was rented. I have grown tired of paying for a storage locker and have taken a second look at what is stored and down sized again as well as buying an insulated cargo trailer that can be sold to recoup storage costs.

Steve
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Steve

Retired single man here. Planning to begin full-timing on April 1st this year as a solo. One of the biggest obstacles for me has been dealing with the emotional aspect of parting with family heirlooms, including furniture, that held meaning to me. Last summer I read this article about selling stuff and moving on: https://wandrlymagazine.com/article/how-to-get-rid-of-your-stuff/ . Part 1 dealt with overcoming sentimentality. It was the best discussion of the subject I had ever read and was a game changer for me. At about the same time I read the book, “Downsizing the Family Home” by Marni Jameson. About half of… Read more »

Mary Woods
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Mary Woods

This is exactly my take on this subject but I admit I’m not there yet. Single woman with a dog, going full time in a small RV I just bought. Selling my condo in Boston. Retiring from the job and hitting the road. I plan to eventually move to Mexico as an ex-pat after living in the RV for a while. BUT… I have mostly art work I just cannot let go. Furniture has no meaning, but my art? Really struggling with that one. I keep thinking I”ll just box it all up and store it in Tucson where I’ll… Read more »

Sam Lunt
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Sam Lunt

For those things you think you can’t part with just take a picture or two of them and you always have a better memory when looking at the picture yet it takes up no room and can be shared with all of your family easily.

Brenda
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Brenda

When our nephew and niece parents died they had the responsibility of cleaning out their two bedroom condo. They kept practically NOTHING. All the dishes and other things their parents kept went into a dumpster in the driveway.
After seeing this we asked our kids if they wanted any of our “stuff”. They took some furniture but that’s about it. We either donated and sold a few things at flea markets.
Try not to feel sad if your kid’s don’t want your heirlooms. Keep a few pieces that you can’t give up and USE them for your enjoyment.

Michael McCracken
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Michael McCracken

Follow the RV Shrinks advice. As far as how to handle the “Family Jewels”, that is a personal matter…….lol.

Jerry X Shea
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Jerry X Shea

The Shrink hit the nail on the head – “you are dead, what happens to the items.” Pass them on now, while you are alive to see them enjoy the items. FYI – Ater you sell that big house, buy a very small one for 2 reasons. First, you have to be “from someplace.” Drivers license, voting, etc. While “roaming the country side” as fulltimers, which we did for 8 years, you are going to want a place “to come home to.” Second, as much as you may be in great health today, what about 10, 15, 20 years from… Read more »

Glenda Alexander
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Glenda Alexander

Another option might be to donate the heirlooms to a museum or, if you think you may want them back, loan them to the museum. That way, many people would be able to enjoy them.

Robbie
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Robbie

As full timers, we bought a utility trailer years ago for storage. Pretty handy, we have moved it to different locations several times, and have never paid for storage. Usually once a year we’ll go back to it, unload, throw out and reorganize.

Alaska Traveler
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Alaska Traveler

We took several years to empty our house preparing to sell. We had 3 huge garage sales. Since I lived very far from my heirs, I took pictures of our worldly goods and asked my heirs if there was anything they wanted. We owned a 20’ enclosed trailer that we packed with things people wanted and things (like tools) that we couldn’t part with. We had heirs with room to park it after distributing those things others wanted. I still have several boxes of things I couldn’t part with but I’ll probably do that soon. I have never looked back…

Jeannie
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Jeannie

“Skinning a cat” probably originally referred to skinning a catfish. Those things are hard to skin and I’ve seen umpteen methods of doing so (The easiest way I found was to filet the meat with the skin still attached, then slice the meat off the skin. Once I got the hang of it, it took only a few seconds and I had meat without the built in toothpicks.)