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How would you answer, “Do you have any regrets?”

By Nanci Dixon
I come across the question “What do you regret?” many times on the Facebook groups I belong to, but it’s such an open-ended question that it’s hard to answer. Many times the question is from people considering taking the leap to full-timing. But it can also come in the form of “What do you regret getting rid of?” Or, “Do you regret selling the house?” “Do you regret not having family close by?” “Do you regret leaving your job?”

Each time I see that question it causes a few moments of reflection. What do I regret? What good are regrets anyway? Can regrets cause change?

Do I regret selling the family house? Nope, not at all. Do I want another house? No, not at all! Do I want non-ending house cleaning, shoveling, raking, repairs? No. Tied down to one location? No, no and no!

Do I regret the permanence of an address, a place I can say I live when asked? We have the whole world, or at least the U.S., Canada and Mexico, as our address. How exciting! One day our address is Yosemite and one day it is a regional park in the mountains. One day north and one day south, east or west.

Do I regret getting rid of almost all our stuff?. We still have too much stuff and I need to clear out a few more clothes and lots more tools. Do we really need 10 screwdrivers? I only regret getting rid of a few items and only occasionally when I find we need it. But, I always look at that need as an opportunity to go on a rare shopping trip.

About the stuff: I did squirrel away one box of memories, my mom’s china, our photo albums and a container of our most memorable Christmas ornaments in a dormer at the family cottage. My sisters do mention it every once in awhile, but I stay firm on pretending the boxes take up no room at all.

Do I regret not having family and friends close by? I miss family and friends, but missing is a different question from regret. Missing means that I have a warm feeling for the people and places I’ve been before, memories that I treasure. Regret is not warm, regret does not heal, regret usually doesn’t get a do-over.

In the end, I really only regret the things I had a chance to do and didn’t, and I am so glad we won’t regret making the breathtaking leap and embracing this exciting, wonderful, sometimes challenging full-time lifestyle.

If someone asked you, “What do you regret?” or “Do you have any regrets?” how would you answer?

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Phil
9 months ago

I regret having been married and having a child before I tried auto road racing. That kept me from trying to become a professional driver. Sometimes a previous decision defines later choices if you want to do the right thing.

Les
9 months ago

I regret not being a better student, not just in school.
I regret not taking the test for OCS.
I regret not being more understanding of the female species.
I regret not buying tickets to the SRV/Jeff Beck tour.

Ron N
9 months ago

I think that as we age, we “seniors” have a list of woulda, shoulda, coulda’s. I sold my home, put many things that didn’t sell in garage sales into a large storage unit. Took off in my new home on wheels to go visit friends and family all over the country. I then did State Park hosting for about a year. I’m now living in a sticks and bricks house with a mailbox and a garage where I have a workbench. Two things that I really missed. I don’t miss calling my daughter every few days to ask her if I received any worthwhile mail. Life on the road was okay for a while but I never thought that if I made the original decision to go full time, I couldn’t go back.

Karen Grace
9 months ago

I have a kind of different regret, in terms of full time RVing, and that is that we sometimes skim the surface of places (don’t stay long enough in one place) and don’t get to “go deep” and see all there is to see. It’s hard sometimes to know in advance where we might want to stay longer. In retrospect, the places, we’ve stayed a month or longer are usually some of my fondest and clearest memories. We usually stayed one place a year for a month or longer.

Jen
1 year ago

OH I have many regrets but I’ve never regretted going full time RV’ing these last 6 years

Debbie
2 years ago

This really isn’t about regrets but more on looking at life, current and past. After living close to Nanci and her family for around 15 years I can say I miss being able to just yell across the yard, how is your garden or something about the kids. Her husband always saying HI or lending a hand. No regrets with family and friends just a joy to spend as much time with them while you have them near by or to put an effort when they are far. I do feel that some regrets can make a person do things differently in the future or try to be a better person. If you ask my husband YES one really needs 10 different screw drivers.

Bill
2 years ago

Regrets, I had a few, but then again too few to mention.

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2 years ago
Reply to  Bill

Thanks, Ol’ Blue Eyes. 😉 —Diane at RVtravel.com

Montgomery D. Bonner
2 years ago

Well there was this girl I knew, and the question is stupid, humans, regret stuff. We all do, if you don’t you aint human.

Deborah Mason
2 years ago

Nearly all my regrets stem from putting off visits. We always “know” we can do it tomorrow. Then life gets in the way. All too many times a visit or trip put off becomes a “I wish we’d gotten around to it” regret. At least most of mine are visits to places more than with people.

Ann
2 years ago

Oh, yeah, regrets. I regret some career and life choices, especially early on. I made some bad choices that it took years to recover from. So there’s that.

More to the point of your article, though, i retired in my early 50’s, to be able to travel and spend time with my much older spouse while we were both still young enough to enjoy it. I left a lot of money on the table doing that, probably seven figures, and our retirement is much more financially constrained than it would have been if I’d kept working.

Do I regret that? Not at all. Best years of my life. We’ve traveled to places I had only dreamed about, spent months on the road seeing places and better yet, talking to people who live all over North America. Late in life, I’ve become a professional athlete and coach, and I’m in the best shape of my life. I don’t like the limits the pandemic has placed on our lives, and it would have been easier to have just had a job worked my way through it. But no, no real regrets.

Sink Jaxon
2 years ago

I have MANY regrets…there are many things throughout my 62 years of life I wish I could get a do-over on…and anyone who claims to have NO regrets (and I’ve met a few), is lying to themselves.

Sink Jaxon
2 years ago
Reply to  Sink Jaxon

I apologize, I did not mean this to be argumentative, but this is a philosophy we discuss from time to time. Very important thing in life to ponder..

BadWolfe
2 years ago
Reply to  Sink Jaxon

Sink Jaxon, absolutely agree with your comments. I remember a valuable Mentor of mine telling me “Success breeds regret”. He was preparing me for the fact that every choice we make will have a consequence and many have unintended consequences.

Sink Jaxon
2 years ago
Reply to  BadWolfe

That’s real, and thank you for sharing BadWolfe…

Sue
2 years ago

Absolutely NO regrets! Have a few more things to get rid of, but that will take a day back at our small storage unit.

Mitzi Agnew Giles
2 years ago

Je ne regrette rien

BrianR
2 years ago

I regret not getting an rv years earlier when the kids were younger and would have wanted to go with us.

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