Wife worried she’ll be lonely as a full-time RVer

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Dear RV Shrink:
We want to be full-time RVers but my wife thinks she will be lonely. We are not yet in the RV club. It’s not that she doesn’t enjoy my company, she just doesn’t want to be stuck with me 24/7 without some variety of friends. I have been trying to convince her that we will meet fellow travelers and locals wherever we wander. Is this just wishful thinking on my part, or do most people find new friendships on the road? —Lonely Hearts in La Jolla

Dear Lonely:
Trust me, it is not wishful thinking. If you are at all outgoing you will collect so many new and awesome friends your dance card will be constantly full. You will often run into the same friends over and over as you are traveling in the same geographical areas. You will find not only camaraderie but a sharing of great information on maintenance, gear, camping opportunities, recreational options … the list goes on.


In my humble opinion, the very best aspect of this RV lifestyle is the wonderful people you meet along the way, from all over the world. Let me give you one example.

Awhile ago I had just started hiking the Arizona Trail from the Mexico border in Coronado National Monument to Utah. (Please don’t include any political comments – this isn’t about politics.) The problem was having my wife drop me off and then driving 20 miles back to the National Forest campground where we were camped.

I thought about trying to hitchhike down. The road south is heavily used, but it’s all border patrol trucks. There were only a few other campers, but we decided to walk around the campground and see if anyone might be going down to the Monument, and if I might catch a ride. The first group we ran into were not only the nicest and friendliest people, they were Arizona Trail members. They were section hiking the first section of the trail. They had a shuttle service from Tucson picking them up in the morning and driving them to the border trailhead, and said I was more than welcome to join them.

We had so much in common, and laughed and told life stories. I call this “Trail Magic” – when things happen unexpectedly while long distance hiking. You will find this same magic wherever and however you travel – if you are open to it. —Keep Smilin’, Richard Mallery a.k.a. Dr. R.V. Shrink

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Bill Fisher

Yes, we have met many interesting fellow travels while RV’ing. For example: During the summer of 2017 we pulled our trailer from Florida up the Alaska Highway to Alaska and back. Looking for a spot to overnight at a very full Walmart in Grand Prairie, AB, this man walks up to our truck and says, “Hey mate, just back it in in front of our rig.” We did and in talking with this very nice man we learned he and his wife were from Australia and they were also heading to Alaska. We kept running into them in various campgrounds and became such good friends that we ended up doing much of the trip with them. Our final parting was sad, but a few months later we got a call from them that they were in the lower 48 and they reminded my wife that she had told them that if they wanted to visit New Orleans we would meet them there. Well, they were planning to go to New Orleans, so a few days later off we went and spent another few great days with them. We have maintained an email and phone relationship with them and they are currently half way through a year long RV trip around Australia (their third). They sent us maps so we could follow along and we have really enjoyed it. Great friends. This is just one example. I could quote more.

Jerry X Shea

Hey “Lonely Hearts” – To me, your post has ‘I will miss the kids & grandchildren” written all over it. If your wife is indeed a “social Butterfly” she will think she has “died and gone to heaven” when she starts meeting fun folks “without family dynamics” and she will love it. Just go give it a try. You can always go back home. P.S – You don’t have to be involved in her “social event.” Nothing wrong with her attending “group campfires” while you watch “the game. Now ” GO FOR IT.” Jerry X

Jim

We (wife and I have found) that our ability to meet people depends on how cold it is and whether people have satellite TV. If it is too cold, people tend to spend less time out of their rig and are more difficult to start up conversations with. It seems that we have tended to do most of our traveling to cold weather (20’s & 30’s at night) locations.

I have also noticed that people with satellite TV spend little time out of their rig.

I will say that we have met some friendly people when the temperature has been higher than 40 at night. We mostly cook and eat out of the rig (hoping to invite people to say hello).

Rvgrandma

When we lived in a house or apartment, rarely did I know many in the neighborhood. If you are willing to get out of your RV you will meet people. We walk around the park saying hi to all we meet even those sitting outside. Some say ‘hi’ back, others will start in a conversation with you.

Give me RV living any day over being in a house or apartment.

Joe Dobry

If you know all of your neighbors and visit with them regularly, then you probably will have an easy time meeting people at campgrounds. If, however, you keep to yourselves in your own neighborhood, meeting new people may be a little hard at first. YOU have to make the first move most of the time…ask questions about their RV/FT or not?/etc. Quickly you will make friends or move on to the next opportunity.

Tommy Molnar

We aren’t full timers (I’d call us ‘part timers’) but we have met SO many nice people in our years of RV’ing. And like you say, even WE have run into some old friends made on other trips. On the other hand, we’ve met people we’d LOVE to see again but probably won’t. You have to make the best of it every time you connect with other RV’ers.