By Nanci Dixon
Why in the world are some people so mean-spirited? We have always found the RVing community generally kind, courteous, and friendly. What has happened that has moved a small group of people to sarcasm and meanness online? Do they not realize that flinging hateful words are to real people, your fellow campers?
I read most of the comments to my articles but sometimes not. Particularly obnoxious ones or ones needing a reply are brought to my attention. I am surprised at the personal attacks on me and others. “Clueless,” “stupid,” “idiot” are some of the ones that come top to mind. How is it that hiding behind the cloak of anonymity allows the worst in us to come out?
It really came to my attention about a year ago when I had written what I thought was simply an informative article about an outrageously priced, but luxury RV park we stayed at. Aren’t spur-of-the-moment reservations, especially near a high-demand national park, usually the most expensive? Once the sticker shock wore off, we actually enjoyed it. I wanted to show others what a $198-a-night campsite looked like. How innocent and naive was that?
The ugly comments rolled in. To be fair, a number of nice, supportive comments came in too. But the ugly, nasty ones seemed to rise to the top. I am much more of a tough old bird than a sensitive spring chicken, so most of the time negative comments simply roll off my back.
Stuck in my craw are the comments about me personally. “Rich and stupid,” some readers wrote. You don’t even know me! I can assure you with absolute certainty that I am anything but stupid. And nope, not rich either. That luxury KOA was like having a filet mignon steak dinner in a fine restaurant, the only restaurant left in town. We can always cut back with boondocking and Harvest Hosts. But why would I even need to explain that?
It gave me pause. A lot of times I try to just scan and take any of the less-than-kind comments with a grain of proverbial salt. I learn from them. But I had to ask, what have we become? Is every printed piece, article or newscast an opportunity to bash others? Is it the new Saturday and Sunday morning sport? And why, oh why, does the comment section invariably turn political? My recent article about letting a stranger use the RV bathroom rolled nonstop into politics!
Despite some of the vicious comments that people make to others, I am encouraged by the helpful information that others share. Helping is the reason behind so many of the articles on RVtravel.com. I am noticing in some of the other forums that I subscribe to that people are starting their posts with: “Please be patient with me. I’m just asking a question. I am new and don’t know. Please be nice.”
So why can’t we just be nice? What has happened to our camaraderie as fellow campers? Isn’t that why we are all reading RVtravel.com—to learn, to share and, hopefully, to give to each other?
What the heck?
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I agree 100% and wonder if the mean-spiritedness isn’t a consequence of extreme unhappiness and/or loneliness, and your articles trigger disagreement that makes people angry and righteous. Sounds like you’re in a good place with letting the toxicity roll of your back, which would certainly be a necessary tool to survive writing for the public.
I, personally, love reading your articles and simply ignore anything I might disagree with🙏
Cathy, I agree with your last statement, & Nanci, Keep up the good work, & ignore the negative, insecure stuff. AMEN?!
Nanci, I just want you to know that I enjoy your writing and can’t imagine any reason to have any type of mean-spirited response to any article you write.
I have enjoyed your articles and even though I’m not RVing anymore I still read the RV Travel News. Social media is nice but I think it has created a space where everyone can be a bully anonymously. I think there are a lot of very unhappy people in the world today!
Nancy,
I have been asking the very same question for a long time. The thing I keep coming back to is competition. Everything, it seems, is all about being better. Not your own best, but better than the next person. They start competing at 4 or 5 years of age. Have you ever attended a youth soccer game? Parents treat their kids, the refs, the other team and the other teams parents in much the same manner as you are describing in your article. We breed hate and discontent in Our children and then wonder why they act this way as adults. People who cannot compete may feel superiority by attacking those that cannot retaliate. Hence all the shootings as well. My opinion only.
So very true. I remember when my son was in a 6 year olds soccer team. Basically kids running, kicking the ball, having fun. One father was yelling at his kid, “trip him, check him, hit him.” After a bit I said to him, hey they’re just having fun, relax and let them. Well I can’t write what his answer was. People need to calm down.
They call them keyboard warriors for a reason. They are the ones who, knowing they likely will never see you in person, become more outspoken, rude, mean. It happens in all forums. I’m probably guilty of it to a degree. Hopefully you are able to concentrate on the positives you receive and continue putting out great content.
Nanci,
I love your articles and I 100% agree with your assessment of this situation. Unfortunately, I see this in campgrounds as well. I am new to RVing, My wife and I saved for years to buy a camper we could enjoy in our retirement. We are also not rich. After years of saving we were able to purchase a Riverstone fifth wheel. Recently I said hi to a gentleman who had just pulled in his travel trailer, he did not respond. I thought he did not hear me so I said hi again. He turned, looked directly at me and said, “I don’t talk to your kind.” I was stunned. Unfortunately, we have had this type of thing happen more than once. Keep writing your great articles!
Hi Nanci,
The nasty responses you and others get are a symptom of today’s societal problems and issues. I am a 75 year old avid RV’er who remembers simpler and more humane times. I remember when Republicans and Democrats, while sitting across from the aisle from each other, were at least able to get along and get stuff accomplished. We never heard of mass shootings. I never witnessed, until perhaps the 60’s or 70’s, the nastiness and the vitriol that we experience on a daily basis.
I hate to sound like an old curmudgeon, but I wish for simpler times. To people like yourself, who expose themselves for the betterment of most of us, keep on keeping on.
On this site, any Dixpon, one cannot hide behind the cloak of anonymity. Maybe because of statements like that people get a bit angry?
I remember when the internet was just coming about. I was excited that I was able join in discussions with people from all over the world. But invariably someone would jump into the conversation that would usually say vulgar or ugly things. I can’t explain it but there are just so many people out there who get their kicks by saying absolutely anything that would get others upset. That just seems to make their day. And at first I hesitated to sign up for this news letter because I thought it would be filled with negative comments. I do enjoy reading your articles because it’s one place I can go to and just relax with good honest discussion. Thank you.
Just keep writing, you’re doing just fine.
I found your article about mean people to be very true. Unfortunately, it’s not just RVers but it seems to me in every day life it has become that. Don’t let the mean spirited people get to you. My wife and I enjoy reading your information.
I wholeheartedly agree with everyone of the readers who have posted before me. A true “adult” understands that they should not make judgmental comments about others. So you are not referring to adults; these individuals are demonstrating the tendencies of emotional immaturity.
“How is it that hiding behind the cloak of anonymity allows the worst in us to come out?” Isn’t that the truth?
How can they be so right and I can be so wrong? Even if I’m wrong about something, what gives them the right to be so mean and angry? Our life experiences are different from each other, so we see the world differently and that’s OK. Whatever happened to learning to play well with others? My mother taught me if I can’t say something nice, to keep my mouth shut. Sometimes the silence is deafening and a little awkward.
Great article, Nanci! It is very sad at times. Glad it can roll off your back when needed. I always appreciate your articles and sharing your stories!
Well said… thank you!
There’s a kind of selfishness showing up that I see way too often on this site. Instead of celebrating the tremendous variety of people who RV (from boondockers in 30 year old truck campers through glampers in million-dollar palaces), we get nasty as soon as someone does something significantly different from what we do. People, freedom means the right for me to be different from you!
And, I am not obligated to read an article about something I’m not interested in. If I choose to, I am not obligated to leave a nasty personal slur.
Very sad. There is a nasty streak in human nature, which is somehow exacerbated by the internet. Sorry to read this Nanci, but I’m hardly surprised…
Nanci, I’m going to try to give you some words of encouragement. You’re doing a fantastic job of keeping us informed and at times, you keep us laughing with your wonderful articles, by showing us that you and your husband encounter the same issues that we do. Just ignore the haters. Keep on doing what you’ve been doing.
Nanci
I thank you for your insight in your articles. It makes or should make one pause to question would I do that, would I spend that or I haven’t thought of that. Then people should be respectful in commenting their opinion on why the would or would not and not attack anyone.
Please keep the articles coming so I can have that thought of would I, should I, can I, will I.
I have often pondered this and agree with those who wrote before me here. Some people are lonely and/angry. They hide behind the anonymity of a keyboard with a prideful, self-righteous attitude. They say things online they would NEVER say to your face. I had this happen to me by people I knew from CHURCH (who still never said a word to me in person) and people I did not know in a gardening group. I blocked the folks I knew and left the gardening group. Life is too short to deal with rude people. Don’t listen to them Nanci. You are a fantastic writer!
Another comment from the ‘peanut gallery’ here:
I like reading your articles! Even though I grew up family tent camping since I could walk and more formal RVing in TTs and MHs for my family, I most often find your articles continue to teach and be informative.
Personally I liked the article about the West Glacier KOA. We have stayed there many times starting in the 70s. Yes, it was expensive then – and Wow, $198 a night now! So convenient to our favorite National Park and the adjacent Canadian park.
The one’s that baffle me are the RV’ers that are incensed by the brand of truck another chooses to drive. It’s beyond me why someone would be so hateful because you drive a (fill in the blank) and not the brand that they drive.
I enjoy the RV Travel Newsletter and your articles. You and the other writers provide a valuable service and show us many different sides to RVing. Sadly too many people think they know it all or just can’t accept that not everyone is like them. The name calling is a reflection of themselves even though it is hurled at you. Keep writing and put up a mirror for the nasty comments so they bounce back to the commentator.
Good morning Nanci
Keep the good articles coming. I learned a long time ago, my opinions are mine and I have no right to force them on anyone else. I am glad your feelings weren’t hurt too bad or we would all be reading articles by Chuck’s AI bot. I don’t consider myself rich. We have a stick and tin trailer because of poor fiberglass on our previous trailer. We do what works best for us, but enjoy reading about others journeys. Keep up the awesome journalism.
Nanci, there are those people who find superiority in spewing their insults from the safety of their own home, hiding behind a computer screen.
Rich and stupid they say. Might this have come from a person who will spend $1500.00 dollars on the latest I-phone, or $2000.00 on the latest computer. What is wrong with treating yourself once in a while. It’s your money, you earned it. Who has any right to tell you how to spend it. Was it a little pricey, yes. But they did offer things that other campgrounds don’t. Maybe it was jealousy, but you’re right . Don’t take it to heart. The few do not outweigh the many. As the song goes, (one bad apple doesn’t spoil the whole bunch). Keep expressing your opinions and we can form our own. Happy trails.
The public figures we should be looking up to have moved into what keeps them in social media: attacking others, which gives “permission “ to some people to act out. Reasonable forums need to dump unreasonable people.
You are spot on with my thinking.
Thanks for doing what you’re supposed to do as a writer- make us think!
One might assume from the comments on this site that RVers are judgmental and mean. Your generous writing to us and comments on this article show that isn’t always the case.
It’s my opinion that the world is becoming less tolerant. Gone are the days when you are able to actually have a debate, not even our College campuses are willing to book speakers with an opposing position of their perceived generalized norms of society
With that being said, I long for the days of my youth where we could just smile and nod, give the benefit of the doubt and just wish each other a good day and move on if we found ourselves on opposite sides
Just keep being the kind, respectful person you are and just maybe your character may rub off on the more prickly bunch that make up this readership!😊❤️
Spot on!!!
Life is just way too short to put any credibility in comments from over opinionated people, usually hiding behind a keyboard. In other words “always consider the source”.
campers have been FT’ers for 4 years and have seen the campers that never say Hi. Have even see mgmt of campgrounds become less friendly. Very few come by and ask how you are doing and is everything ok with your campsite. We stayed in a campground in MT and a worker to me the New owners had told staff to not bother the campers by talking to them. Lol!
We are currently at a campground, for the winter, that is the friendliest we have been at in years.
Everyone says Hi, introduces themselves, a Huge breath of fresh air, its in California.
Gives hope for the species!
The campgrounds are there you just got to find them.
Keep up the Good work!!
Hmmmm. I’m not talking about anyone special. There’s no need to attack anyone. In my experience with Facebook or people in person, many people are jumping on everything. I quit a few groups or block the nasty. No one’s opinion will agree with all. But some try to make everything into something political even when it isn’t. I know a lot about some things but not everything. About most things, I know nothing and say so. Someone gave an opinion in his own post, others attacked and asked why he did not scroll on by. Someone else asked why that person didn’t scroll on by, he did not answer because he was guilty of not scrolling himself. It’s hard to figure and for me, a waste of time trying.
I think we agree Lorelei. It is unfortunate that everything has become political. Vaccines, climate science, health science and even gender facts. If an article mentions climate change, it automatically invites descenting comment. If an RV article accidentally meanders into political conversation because a Supreme owns an RV, it is by design that an article ended up in political conversation, not an accident.
I hope civilized discourse returns in my lifetime, I’ll gladly follow that trend.
Nanci, you are spot on with your concerns. Unfortunately there are a lot of insecure, lonely and just negative people that have found the internet to be a place they can easily vent and hide behind a cloak of secrecy. I enjoy the thoughts and options that you provide in your articles. You allow us to learn about places and things we may have never known or been able to experience. That is what I enjoy about this sight. I don’t have to agree with everything but I still get a lot out of it. As a writer you do something that very, very few others would ever do. You have a special gift of sharing and story telling. Don’t let the negative few slow you down. All the best.
Thank you for doing what you do.
Thanks for reminding us that we are all in this space of time together.I have been dragged into spewing hateful things myself.it’s not who I am or want to be.our society seems to have been turned upside down.A big part of it is the T.V. It gets me so worked up and aggressive when I watch the so-called news channels.I think for my personal mental health and well being , I am going to ween myself off the T.V. Instead go for a walk,do chores around the house,even wash and wax my R.V. Being angry,aggressive,and combative all the time is exhausting.our time on this earth is short,let’s not waste it on nonsense. Wishing health and happiness to all. There,I feel better already.
I don’t know the reason why, but isn’t it amazing how attitudes have changed over the last 3 or 4 years? And not for the better.
Nanci, in my opinion, which may disagree in some fashion with other opinions, but that’s okay – so long as you are willing to respect that there may be other viewpoints and take it as an opportunity for discourse rather than an invitation to attack…. Shame we need that disclosure. I cannot tell you how many shin bruises I have from my wife because I express my thoughts, factual, not unkind, and without a personal attack, having just heard someone else’s opinion. I listened. Why can’t you, and seek common ground? Why the kick? Because too many people see any thought not 100% in line with theirs as a reason to become defensive, and initiate personal attacks that continue long after you leave
I, too, am constantly stung by how nasty people have become. They do hide behind the anonymity of online communications, but it has filtered out into the real world as well. There are people who scream at you for driving a certain way or crossing the street in front of them or being in line in front of them. It has become a scary world today with the way people seem to react to frustrations. I love RV Travel and hope that unkind words from obtuse individuals do not turn you away from your informative and entertaining articles.
IMHO this nastiness has always been there. One look at the politics/elections of over 200 years ago and what they (those running for office) openly said of their opponent was pretty appalling. Now we have this forum of communication and the anonymity of it and it’s open season for whatever pops into some peoples brains. And the big difference is we’re not in the same room where, I believe, a lot of the same people might actually restrict what they are thinking.
I enjoy your articles, Nanci. Skip the bullies! That’s all.
Sad but quite frankly, if you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen. The internet has become the domain of the great unwashed. Civil discourse is more of the exception then norm.
friz, I’ve always thought that people are either part of the problem or part of the solution. What kind of comment is: “…if you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen.”? It certainly isn’t part of the solution. I don’t know you friz but in my 75 years I’ve met many people like you. I can give you many analogies respecting your comment and I would ask that you look around you, look in the mirror, do you like what you see? As Bambi’s mother said, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
It seems to me that you are both right but may have misunderstood the friz comment. The Bambi comment and the kitchen comment can be interpreted as somewhat the same. Both mean to step away from the confrontation, don’t they?
Hi, Kelly and impavid. This is a tough one. I think friz’s comment about staying out of the kitchen was aimed at Nanci, i.e., to quit writing if she can’t take the heat/criticism. And I think that was what impavid’s comment was relating to, i.e., friz’s negative comment towards Nanci. I don’t think friz’s comment was aimed towards the negative commenters, which would have been interpreted more along the lines of impavid’s comment. But I may have misinterpreted friz’s comment, in which case my comments are moot (which is a silly-sounding word, BTW). And I think I’ll quit, now that my brain is totally scrambled. Have a good afternoon/evening, my friends.🤗🤗 (one for each of you) –Diane
Ahhh! Maybe a perfect example of how we can be agreeing on a subject without realizing the previous context and therefore thinking we disagree. Yep, we do need to stop and take a breath between sentences. A breath introduces oxygen into the brain, and therefore ….Hmmm? Thank You Diane
No wonder my brain was getting scrambled while I was trying to sort out your and impavid’s comments–I forgot to breathe! (That might also explain my headache.🤔) Have a good evening/night, Kelly.🤗 –Diane
Take Care. Breathing at your altitude must be harder than down here at sea level. (Well, I am actually at 25 feet above sea level.)
I’m not at a very high altitude, actually. If I were at my mountain property it would be a little higher, but not much. Or are you talking about my 6’+ in height?😉😅 Have a good night, Kelly. 😀 –Diane
I love your articles! Keep them coming!
My theory about nasty comments is that usually people are either not reading carefully, or misinterpreting the text based on their own biases. Then they are offended, and attack, perhaps to show their superiority.
This has always been the case, since the early days of computer bulletin boards and online forums like GEnie (yes, I’m that old.) Flame wars would erupt over the most trivial matters. Often hilarious, if you weren’t the one being flamed.
Some people just insist on being “those” people.
I enjoy your articles. Write on!
Nanci,
You are one of the reasons that I keep subscribing to this newsletter. I love your columns! You are very informative and I know I can trust that you are just trying to share knowledge with us. Keep up the good work!
In my youth, it was ok to have a discussion that was more like a debate without either side judging which side you took. It was very informative and now I have some great critical thinking skills. Unfortunately in today’s society, this is not the norm. I am aghast at the number of folks that use personal attacks to be critical of others. (Dumb, stupid, idiot) Those are the comments that need to be scrolled past and on to others that have real substance. I enjoyed your article on the luxury RV spot, as I wondered if it would ever be worth it to me. Keep up your informative writing, as I love learning from other’s experiences.
People seem to be more “angry” these days. I see a lot of it in all sorts of social media. It’s easy for them, because they can “hide” that way (they think). Unfortunately it filters out to their every day personality. It’s one thing to have a difference of opinion, but another to be mean about it. It used to be interesting to discuss all sorts of subjects, learning from each other, now people start interjecting mean words, yelling, obscenities, etc. to where it’s no longer a discussion but an argument of who’s right and who’s wrong. No “learning” going on there. It’s a sad state of affairs…
Thanks for you insight on camping. Unfortunately the internet seems to bring out the worst in some people. Maybe they need to spew insults to make themselves feel bigger, better, and more important than they really are which is sad, very small minded people.
Totally agree with you! My question is, if these nasty folks need to complain, why do they do it to others who are sharing positive info? I wonder what they are like with their families and friends! Very sad to be so negative. Just keep on sharing the wonderful articles! Many more of us that enjoy them and look forward to reading those gold nuggets of information.
I remember that piece well Nanci. It seemed some people merely read the headline, formed an opinion, jumped down to the comment section and Pow! socked it to ya. Zero reader comprehension. After 65 years on this earth, I still haven’t figured this out about people. So, do we open our minds first for our hearts to open up? Or do we open our hearts first for our minds to open up? I’m not perfect by any means, but to answer your question, I feel a lack of spirituality as a whole, has a lot to do with it. Peace to you.
Sad to say but I have left some groups on social media because people have to be so rude.
A sense of anonymity tends to free people to do things online that they’d never do in person.
An observation: For over 30 years I’ve owned a convertible. One thing I’ve noticed when driving it is that it strips a degree of anonymity from myself and others when I am driving it around town. People see me not as just another car on the road, but as a person in that car. They are far more likely to let me merge than when I am driving my other vehicles.
The other is power. Too many people feel powerless in their own miserable lives and lashing out at others gives them some sense of power.
I like what you said about you in the convertible. I have had a convertible all my life and until you said it, I didn’t realize how true your statement is. When I think back, your observation is correct. Top up – top down – I do think I am then treated differently. Great observation.
As far as everything seems to turn political, I think that is just a reflection of today’s times when we have two political parties wishing to air their dirty laundry through media, where at one time their grievances with one another were kept behind closed doors.
I believe the meanness is just an offshoot of the world of social media we all live in today. Often I thank God that my kids are grown with their own families. I don’t wish parenthood on anyone today having to deal with the influences facing our youth today.
There are angry people, unhappy people and frustrated people in our world. Sometimes i feel their only forum is to attack others and what they say, thus satisfying their need to feel better about themselves. Our world is more political..but more a politics of opposites. No middle ground anymore. RVing should be a place where you get to relax and talk together about things that are important for that lifestyle. You will have to ignore those who want to take it to a different place. You write from your heart and experiences..something we all need to do.
America is not the shangrila that so many others around the world think it is..yet they storm here in waves to soak up the freebies. America is not the apple pie and Chevrolet’s of yesteryear and most likely will never be again.The traits that the article explains have permeated society,mostly due to the internet,and have twisted people’s minds…starting in schools aimed at young kids. We the people have allowed this to happen. We gave up traveling in an RV because of the way people are nowadays and have resorted to short day trips so as to avoid as many of the problems we the people have created. Look in the mirror folks…everyone has contributed to this problem.
First off, thank you for your daily informative articles. Love l starting my day that way.
From birth, children look primarily to their parents and leaders as examples of how to behave towards one another and cooperate in a civil society, even where there were differences of opinion. Survival, particularly in times of war and hardship meant setting aside differences, respecting each other, and working together for the greatest good. We were taught this in relation to siblings and schoolmates, with the expectation we would carry it on to adulthood.
Now we have some leaders who regularly hurl insults and demonize others and are applauded by parents for it as “tough”. ‘Nuff said.
We often agree JP, and today is one of those days. You are absolutely correct that it is our leaders that hurl insults that give way to activism.
When 50 million Americans are called deplorable. When 70 million Americans are called “the greatest threat to democracy”. When 50 millions Americans are called domestic terrorists. Yes JP, you are correct, our current leadership is derelict at uniting our country and I am glad you have pointed that out. ✌️😃
Yes Cancel. And hopefully, when we vote, we can choose who we put at the top of each party’s ticket to lead the nation and free world, ones who model the best of collegiality, compromise, the abilty to “work and play well with others”, and the capacity to place the good of the country over self as a role model for their party leaders, staff, citizens, and our children. Leaders who aspire to lift us up as a nation, not drag us down. Maybe we can start that discernment by how they conduct themselves on social media.
A more pragmatic solutions oriented party leadership commitment, both sides, sure would be helpful. This current take no prisoners approach we all suffer under is failing us all badly, for decades.
Cheers brother. 👍
💕 Nanci. We appreciate your talents. Thank you.
Frankly, I am surprised comments haven’t been turned off in this newsletter. Every article posted that reveals any opening for disagreement, nasty opinion or vicious mockery, will have that one person start in. Which then leads another to “Agree,” thereby validating and emboldening others to get their licks in. Many online publications have taken the step to shut off comments in consideration of not adding to the toxic stew that is online discourse. It’s unfortunate and can be added to the long list of things that “used to be.”
I like the ability to have a dissenting opinion, heck, our country is founded on that principle. (Yes, I know not just Americans here.) But debate and opinion should be polite discourse. It’s 100% okay to disagree with someone’s opinion. It’s 100% okay not to devolve into personal and opinionated attacks on the other person.
We are living in a time when descent is not tolerated. A time when censorship is a governing principle. A time when canceling people’s careers is OK because they say men can’t get pregnant out loud. A time when men can pulverize women and women’s rights in order to take a gold medal. A time when people right of center are called domestic terrorists.
Do not descent or risk being put into a re-education camp and be “deprogrammed”. Hillary’s word, not mine.
As I writer here I too have experienced this, but I see it in RV Travel’s Facebook groups (which I am a moderator for) even more. MANY people start questions the way you describe, “Please don’t be mean I am a newbie trying to learn.” It is so sad and such a commentary on our society that that is necessary.
Nancy, you are spot on! Why are people being so nasty? You see it out on the road, at the grocery store and yes, sadly even in the campgrounds of America! This is our 11th year of full time on the road and we have loved it. However, here lately, as I like to walk around a campsite and see someone out side and start up a conversation with them, alas, people are now hunkered down in their own little world, no time to converse with, uck, a stranger seeking to start a conversation! Sadly, gone are the days of our parents who traveled the roads and byways to not only enjoy the beauty of America, but to learn from the people within!
Said it before, I’ll say it again: People can be complete jerks online because there’s no repercussions. Folks have forgotten what it’s like to get punched in the mouth. You’ll see people do things in line (like zooming way ahead to the “left lane closed” sign and cutting in front of others, causing the entire line to brake and buckle back. Try doing that at the grocery store or post office and see how far you get.
Perhaps if people were required to give their real names (not just a nickname) they might moderate their comments.
Exactly.
I prefer the monikers from everyone that uses one. I recognize a post quickly and never confuse one Bob with the next. With pride and not to hide behind but in order to never be confused with another Bob or another Chuck or another Gene. Everyone knows my handle and thus, they will never confuse me with someone else. I wish everyone picked a unique handle. I have a dozen Tee-Shirts that I wear with CANCELPROOF emblazoned across the back like a jersey, because I dont hide. Feel free to say hi if you see me and maybe you can square me away or at least get me into a re-education camp.
Cancelproof, you are just too darn funny. I’ve been looking for a re-education camp for you for some time, but have not found one that quite fits your style, and starting a camp for just one person doesn’t seem feasible. You are just going to have to be who you are. After all, a sharp mind is a terrible thing to waste. (Sorry, couldn’t resist your last sentence.)
Cheers KellyR. Made me laugh. Been laughing a lot today though. Life is SO good. Cheers again.
ALRIGHT! My work is done today, I made one person laugh.
Nanci,
Sometimes I’m offended by reading comments also and they are not even directed at me. I’ve noticed the general decline in morality just about everywhere today and I don’t think it will change. Try to hang in there and know that if you had face-to-face with most of these people it would be different.
You make a good (and valid) point. It’s easy for people to make negative comments when they don’t have to truthfully identify themselves (for fear of negative repercussions being tossed back at themselves). I will admit that I sometimes have disagreeing views on some things that have been said (or published) – but I don’t take that person to task over them. Like myself, they’re allowed to have their own opinions. I may make off-handed comments – but they stay in my own head and quickly pass – they are not typed on my keyboard and they certainly are not published. I know many people who like to argue just for the sake of argument, but name-calling is just NOT appropriate.
Nancy, you write beautifully, as I have said before, and I enjoy reading your contributions. This one is no exception.
I think Diane and RVTravel do an exceptional job at editing the personal insults in the comment section and in general, allowing differing opinions to become part of the story, which makes every article by every contributor even better. We all get take away what we want and if our experience has been different, we can say so, which opens the door for others to offer contribution which then opens a window for even more readers to speak the truth they live by. IE: Not everyone thinks EVs are good for the planet and that’s OK.
Thank you, Nanci. You bring up the exact reason for my not being on any social media. I still read the newspaper on-line every day, at home and in the RV, to get my world, national, and local news because it has no “comments” section. It has Letters to the Editor, but those are reviewed and approved by an editor. Maybe AI could be used to delete any comments to RVtravel articles that are hurtful, political, or just off-topic. I think those types of comments are made because there is no “filter” (editor) reading them before publication.
PS: I read RVtravel every day BEFORE I read the newspaper because the articles are always more interesting!
I agree with what you said Steve, except maybe stay away from the AI aspect. And I read the daily on line paper first so that I save the best articles for last.
Thank you Nanci for my favorite weekend column !
I am so sorry that people act that way. I see it all the time and just do not understand why. Being anonymous just seems to make these people brave enough to sling mud. In person you would not hear even 10% of that nonsense.
I ascribe most of the “hate” “nasty ” comments to a general lack of education of the larger general public. What with “standards to meet”, standardized texts and tests and the like, it seems that the original goal of education has been lost.
That original goal was to provide the means to understand and evaluate information that comes to the individual. How to discuss to get more information, yes even debate, but to keep an open mind away from forgone conclusions, biases and stereotypes.
I call them “Keyboard Warriors”. They will say things online, or quote someone spiteful verbiage that they wouldn’t say to anyone in person. But what can you expect when we allowed the leader of the “Free World” to do this.
Why aren’t haters warned and blocked from participating in comments?
Hi, Richard. The worst offenders are blocked, and the worst comments get trashed. But we also support freedom of speech, so it’s a fine line we’re walking. I’m much more lenient than the other moderators, and get reminded of that fact by them (that I need to be tougher). Have a great day. 😀 –Diane aka “Big Sister” at RVtravel.com
Thank you, Nanci! I’m sorry that the comments were so mean and numerous. I don’t recall the article, so thank you for the link to it. I’ll also see if I commented and how nice 🙂 or not-nice 🙁 it was. Please forgive me if it was the latter. Safe travels!
If you can’t remember if you were nice or not in your comment, you need to take a good look at yourself!
WOW.
Hi, Sharon. Just for the record, and for your edification, Neal has posted almost 2,400 comments and not one of them has been negative. In fact, the majority of them are thanking the writers for their posts. But he is so respectful that he apologized just in case something negative had gotten through somehow. (With Neal, that’ll never happen.) So, no need to come down on him like that. –Diane at RVtravel.com
I don’t think you’re capable of making any negative comments, Neal. At least not here that I’ve seen. Have a great day, Mr. Positivity. 🤗 –Diane
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You’re also our “Mr. Positivity”, Bill. I sooo appreciate your and Neal’s always positive and complimentary comments. Thank you both!!! 🤗🤗 (Yep, one for each.) Have a good night. 😀 –Diane
I would say a lack of manners contributes to the surly comments.
People flat out suck. I guarantee you they don’t have the stones to say it to you or anyone else in person. So easy to hide behind a keyboard and feel so tough.
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Nanci, having read every comment below mine, I can safely say you have more admirers than detractors, include me in the former. I find your columns to be most informative and helpful over the last 4 years that I’ve been reading this newsletter. Your readers may not always agree with you but that’s OK…it’s not OK to insult you. I challenge the haters to do what Nanci does and see how hard it is. They won’t because complaining and insulting is more satisfying than looking in the mirror. I do challenge your readers to speak out against the haters, fight the negativity. In today’s environment, not speaking up isn’t enough…silence is not golden! Keep writing Nanci…we have your back!
It’s not just online rudeness! Recently we took our daughter and son-in-law out to dinner for their anniversary. We had a reservation at a nice restaurant. Our table was not ready but they got it ready quickly. The hostess commented on them being short-staffed. Our server was harried and a bit mixed up. We were patient and understanding and didn’t complain at all. The manager came by our table before we left and thanked us for our patience and gave us free desserts and a gift certificate. I said that we didn’t expect to be rewarded for being decent people. She replied that so many are not decent people anymore. Nanci does not deserve the angry comments anymore than the restaurant workers.
I truly enjoy all the contributions from everyone, while I may not always agree with one person’s opinion at least I hear both sides.
Nanci,
These people are not worth your time and energy! They just drag you down! Moreover, I’m sure that most people like and appreciate your articles. I know that we do! It’s not just in the RV community, it seems like it’s everywhere!
Jeff
I really appreciate all the effort that goes into this newsletter. keep up the good work. nothing good to write don’t write it.
Being negative is not a new phenomenon. I worked with a man 20 something years ago that had opposite ideas as to how the world should be than I did. I went into his office one day and was shocked to find him listening to a broadcast by a very conservative commentator. His answer was that he wanted to know what this man had said so he could argue against him with his friends.
I truly believe some mistake an article (writing) as an edict. And then choose to debate it not as an opinion, but law. We have the right to disagree, but not the right to attack the messenger. Kinda like the Opinion section in a lot of newspapers, it is the author’s opinion, and that’s all. As a rule, relax and enjoy their writing, their opinion.
As others have said “rudeness” seems to be pandemic now days. This is most unfortunate that people can’t have a decent conversation without some being a pain. No one has to agree with everything, but be civil about their opinion.
Love the writers and articles, doesn’t mean I agree, but articles ideas.
Dumb column.
Dumb comment. –Diane at RVtravel.com
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Keep up the good work.
👍😅Thanks, Cancel. Just finishing moderating the over-300 comments that have come in so far today. Now, back to my “real” work while keeping up with comments as they come in. Have a great day. 😀 –Diane
Probably doesn’t need saying but the aboves’ user name says a lot about them.
👍😅 I noticed that. Have a great day, Bill. 😀 –Diane
I noticed the name too. I gonna pray for them.
Example # 1,
Nanci, do not get discouraged, you are among friends
notice exhibit #1 above as proof of bad behavior hid in juvenile poster’s name. Nanci, keep up your good work and observations….we appreciate the efforts
Hello, Nanci.
Great work, my friend. Don’t lose heart, because you positively inform and educate most readers with your erudite and sagacious comments.
People not only “hide” behind anonymity via “social media” formats, but further, they lurk and hide behind the wall of personal accountability. This misbehavior has become much more ubiquitous over the last 20+ years.
We are experiencing increasing collective and individual narcissism in our society, which has become more virulent.
However, there remain a majority of Americans who are decent, courteous, kind and considerate to others. They treat others in a manner in which they would like to be treated. 🙏
To Nanci’s article. My opinion on why some so called RVers seem to have developed a mean streak has become clear over the past year. We were out for 7 months in 2023 staying at various parks. Us over 60 folks recall the past where parks were used for a vacation or weekend trip having fun, and people were more open to share the common experience. Today, a great number of people staying fall under what I’ve termed “alternative housing”. They are there for a myriad of reasons, to which none are my business. A resort manager said she has 45 children meeting the school bus each day. Most residents we saw were not pleasant, not outgoing and not on vacation. It’s the world today. Sadly.
People have to be somewhere, and I doubt that these fulltimers are thrilled with their situation. And, it isn’t just families and kids; there are a lot of singles and couples who work and can’t afford conventional shelter, and same for seniors on fixed income. Living in a box on wheels has to be awful, then when the folks who are fortunate enough to be “recreating” look down at you, it has to be so humiliating. Sorry these folks aren’t relaxed and pleasant, outgoing, and on vacation, but they are probably just doing all they can just to survive each day. Be kind.
I’m also appalled at the tone and rudeness exhibited by some of the comments on RV Travel. It’s been going on for years, so I can’t remember if they have gotten worse over time. The nasty comments I see here do not align with the many wonderful RVers we have met on the road. So my theory is: 1) the comments are made by trolls and/or bots whose goal is to divide us; or 2) the comments are made by RVers who have been unduly influenced by said trolls and/or bots in social media and don’t get out enough to be reminded about how awesome their fellow RVers are regardless of what state they live in or what their politics are. We are called the United States, let’s live up to that standard.
First off love all the article’s I read at rvtravel.com and really hope the negative comments don’t make any of the author’s leave. Second, it seems there has always been that one neighbor with a curmudgeon personality. But with with the growth of internet access it is way easier for these types to express themselves to a larger audience. It’s unfortunate.
There is a societal problem in America today that happened in 1920’s Italy and 1930’s Germany. A “me” and “you” mentality that makes people think anyone who doesn’t think exactly the same as “me” is to be attacked.
The propaganda machines implemented during both those decades in both of those countries were not dissimilar to what we have seen for the last decade in America. Speech police using Gestapo tactics. CIA and FBI targeting of any party makes me want to be a part of that party based on the 20s and 30s analogy you made. The current Antisemitism endorsed by college administrators on campuses the past month and then given credence in the main stream media along with hateful rhetoric from elected antisemites on the floor of congress, no wonder we still have a flag. 2 national anthems on game day probably isn’t helping either. IMHO.
Hi Nanci, all your articles I have read are nice, I commented a week ago (1st time) of your great writing. I’m her
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I want to address the issue of a large group of children at a CG waiting for schoolbus.
On low paying jobs, for many parents rent with children is soaring up to 1800. A month and over. The children know, and living in small RV is sometimes all parents can afford. The family is together. If you’re fulltime or short time, (17) years FT. I have reached out. ” would you like me to teach you to paint”? “What kind of books do you read”? ” I have a lot of chili left over”? If you are timid reaching out, put the family in your prayer book and ask God to bless this family with work. The most important, use common sense , beware, and know when to just back off.
You are a valued asset to your publication. The information and articles that you provide are beneficial to all who enjoy the RV Experience. I like to think of myself as an educated, intelligent and well mannered individual. Unfortunately, the current tide of human sentiment seems to be one of confrontational behavior as the “New Norm”.
There are days that I as a patriotic veteran am embarrassed to be an American.
Please continue to write your articles. They are much appreciated by the majority of your readers.
Ignore the ill-spoken fools!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I for one like to read your informative articles. Keep up the good work. I read that article and commented to my wife that we ought to do that sometime too.
I just commented and forgot to say that I used to follow several FB RV groups. Just asking a simple question results in many negative and demeaning comments. One I see often is you’re stupid and shouldn’t even own an RV if you can’t maintain it yourself. The foul language has creeped in too. I still scan some of them but don’t post anymore. Even trying to help someone with a question gets negative comments. The world is definitely a meaner place it seems than ever before.
Nanci, there is nothing in your style or content that can be argued with, therefore a negative comment means absolutely nothing – they can argue with the wind as much as they want to. The scary thing is, if those keyboard creeps really think the way they write, we are bumping into them, in person, on the street every day.
I totally agree with you…why can’t people just be nice? It doesn’t cost a cent! I think it’s just the world we live in now. Sad, but true. All I can say, is just keep on being you. That’s all you can do. I enjoy reading your articles and you totally have my support!
Human cultures change with time. And every region or group of folks have their own culture. Social media is not the face-to-face campground setting. Folks tend to feel more comfortable sharing their true feelings, good or bad, mean or kind, behind a faceless keyboard. Social media is a relative new development in the scope of time and it may or may not be a place everyone finds value in their participation.
Sending support and hugs. And agreement.
Having a paid subscription for years and RVing for 43 years the new crop of RVers is unbelievable. They feel entitled and ignore common sense.Restaurants, movies, anywhere, you know who they are. The best thing to do is to ignore them. They won’t believe anything someone else says. After one almost fatal heart attack I try my hardest to ignore them. Nothing you say will help them or you. Just smile at their stupidity.
I believe it was Mark Twain who observed, “There are a lot more horses asses in the world than there are horses”. Perhaps things haven’t changed as much as we think.
My guess is that most of the complainers are not paid subscribers. That in itself says a lot about them. They want as much as they can get for themselves for free without having to give anything back. Selfish, spoiled and not worth giving a second thought about.
It seems that much of our current negative vibes seem to have arisen with the coming in learning the ways of a recent former and “popular” president. Many today don’t seem to take responsibility for being cruel and unkind.
I hope all the people I deal with try to be kind and gentle as in this quote. (I try to.)
“America is never wholly herself unless she is engaged in high moral principle. We as a people have such a purpose today. It is to make kinder the face of the nation and gentler the face of the world.”
George H.W .Bush Inauguration 1/20/89
Thank you for articles, I really enjoy them.
Quite a simple answer – no religion in people’s live to give them perspective about others. We live in a selfish world with half the people mad and the other half sad. And a media and politicians that play into it.
Given the events in the Middle East, or the world
as far back as the eye can see, I’m not convinced religion is the best vehicle to give perspective about others. I’d put travel and spending time with people in other places, cultures and communities as #1, a little pain and struggle where one encounters their own “Samaritans” as number 2, and just a good dose of the Golden Rule since birth is the best remedy. But, I would recommend visiting other people’s churches and making them welcome in yours as one way of seeking and finding the best in others.
And I totally agree100%.
Another camping friend n I were just talking about this, related to nasty comments posted to FB camping pages. Not just one either. They posted (different people) in almost every page we belong to. Some, just 1 or 2 comments, others filled the comments. Makes you want to delete most all of them. Scroll by nasty people, there’s nothing that says you HAVE to comment. Thank you for bringing this up, as we don’t feel so alone in our thinking.
Nanci, I enjoy your articles. If people get upset with your articles, then they can just skip past them. Like other people, I see it in forums also. Someone is just asking a question and some people feel a need to berate them.
I don’t get it. Maybe they are just so miserable in their own lives that they have to drag other people into it.
Nanci,
I usually enjoy your articles. I always read them. I am glad you are a tough old bird (we gotta stick together). Please keep writing your articles.
Hey Nanci, don’t be discouraged about the comments. Maybe they are just having a bad day? I think the anonymity of being online and not in person is the issue at heart. People are forgetting to be civil and use their manners. Hope you continue to enlighten us. Thanks
Years ago when kids were ugly at a soccer team, I reminded ours that those kids had to go home with their ugly attitude. Our kids could choose to be happy. So glad I’m not forced to live with some folks from their comments that I read. Life must truly be awful for them.
Our thanks to you Nancy and all the others at RV Travel that share their learnings that we might be better informed. And thanks to all the YouTubers, bloggers and all for their sharing as well.
I can’t understand why people say hurtful things to someone sharing valuable learnings. We find some content more helpful that others but just like a buffet, we pass by the bacon and double up on the liver. Is it possible others feel different about bacon and liver?
And I just love my bacon and liver😋
I’m so glad that you shone a light on the unfortunate individuals who would rudely attack others. During Covid, we were seeing notices at doctors offices and other places saying things like, “Be nice or leave.” Our society took a common courtesy nose dive during our previous president’s unfortunate modeling on Twitter and in person.Common sense rules of behavior don’t apply to him and millions are empowered to model his behavior.
Those who wrote mean things to Nancy are carrying a deadly load of anger that is hurting them more than anyone else.
I don’t think people are inherently mean. I think many people have just become frustrated with the economy and government policies.
Things are quickly changing though. I see a new attitude among many Americans of hope and prosperity.
Stay positive… Great things are just around the corner.
Nanci, I really like your writings, keep up the great work.
Pay no attention to those who bash.
It’s not worth the effort.
It is a shame that so much of this kind of behavior is out there.
You are correct, it has really changed.
Not like it was 40+ years ago when I first started camping.
5 STARS Nanci
Bill, the internet didn’t exist 40 years ago so of course online comments (good or bad) were fewer. But I’m not sure folks were nicer.
It wasn’t that long ago folks were required to use different water fountains and restrooms assuming they’d even be allowed in the business. Cartoons were loaded with defamatory stereotypes and women executives were non-existent. Slurs in news stories were used to describe nationalities, returning soldiers were spat upon and child abuse was considered a “parental right”.
That said, I think the nastiness of humanity has always been there, our awareness and perhaps definitions have changed. Safe travels!
Reading your post just now saddened me because I know it is true. I’ve seen all of this and more in my 78 years. I’ve done my best to remain hopeful and to do what I can when/where I can, Now, as the light is fading, I feel despair for my children and grand children for what they are inheriting. Safe Travels.
Vince, I agree. It’s not that more people have suddenly become nasty. And some “nasties” wouldn’t dare say to someone’s face what they can say hidden in their private space behind a keyboard. Social media has become the mass media enabler for them to be “unsocial.”
I couldn’t agree more Vince S. Social media has provided an outlet for hate mongering without being accountable for ones comments. With anonymity comes all kinds of hateful/hurtful comments by people who are small minded and not worth paying attention to. I also feel that the isolation the world went through during Covid is a contributing factor as well So many bitter people…
Nanci, please continue your writing and continue posting articles. You are providing a valuable service to the many readers of RVtravel.
I think even nice people can forget manners when adding comments online. But my guess is the vast majority of American’s are decent and kind. We just remember the nasty ones and mostly don’t hear the nice ones.
It’s easy to get caught up in the negativity nowadays.
All the people that take the time to write the articles here are pretty special in my book.
From Dave to Nancy
I appreciate their insights and knowledge.
Thanks guys and girls.
You shine a Bright light in this Negative world.
Keep up the great work! I think some people are just born nasty!
I enjoy your comments every day. I have learned a lot from your daily tips. Keep up the good work you old bird!
I’ve left FB groups because it has gotten so bad. It’s interesting that I’ve only found this to be a problem in co-ed groups (even though nasty comments aren’t limited to one gender) vs. all-women groups. I don’t know if it’s because the all-women groups are smaller and the admins are better at policing comments, or what the difference is, but the tone is completely different.
Nasty people certainly take their cues from elected officials. Nuff said.
So nice that the nasty ones are out of power currently so we can now get on with peace and love.
When did Trump leave?
So you’re saying that the side who calls the other side, nazis, rascists, nazi sympathizers, homophobes, garbage, deplorables and fascists is the nice side? Got it.
Thanks for enlightening us on what friendly discourse looks like in your world, from your side.
Consider me enlightened.
Happy trails. ✌️😎
The hate become acceptable, popular and the norm among half the country in 2016.
Indeed it has Ron. One side calls the other side Nazis, Fascists, rascists, garbage, and deplorable and the other side makes rational points with facts. Crazy times for sure.
Happy trails. 😎✌️
Thanks for throwing out ideas to think about every day!
If everyone agreed on everything, how boring would life be? But after saying that, maybe temper it with “ if you can’t say something nice, don’t say something “.
I just wish we could agree to disagree without throwing nasty names at the person you don’t agree with. It seems we have been given permission to be rude to anyone with an opposing opinion. It is just sad & a horrible example being set for younger readers.
Look at what sort of “leaders” and”law makers” we have now…setting an example went out with Eisenhower.
Your exactly correct, look at the leaders…. even yesterday. A 79% poll average has Americans wanting boys out of women’s sports and girls bathrooms saving the title 9 protections for women and giving girls opportunities for athletic scholarships which equal the ones boy’s received for the previous 200 years, prior to title 9.
The vote in the senate yesterday:
100% of Republicans voted to protect girls and women.
100% of Democrats voted to allow boys into girls locker rooms.
The hatred for T is greater than the love of little girls I guess. Simple choices.
Stand alone Bill, read the text of it if you have time.
agree! For some unexplained reason (other than just pure hatred for the president), the leaders of the Democrat party just don’t get it. The majority of Americans are tired of, and don’t really care, what the Democratic party thinks.
It doesn’t help that we now have a President who calls everyone who doesn’t praise him names. At one time a President knew what ‘statesmanship’ was and followed that. We now have a President who thinks bullying is the proper way to run this country.
We now have a president who puts America first and who’s approval rating is through the roof. If you call that bullying, then you sir are part of the reason our country was in such a sad state of affairs’ for the last 8 years. Sorry that having a strong president upsets you Thomas.
Thumbs up.
Sadly, I see even the comments below to your plea for agreeable discourse have morphed into the political. Social media has removed the thought process that people used to possess for face-to-face conversation. Respect and concern for each other dissolves behind the keyboard firewall. I personally enjoy all your articles; thank you for continuing to share your experiences.
I am sorry that this happened to you. I generally enjoy your articles. If the subject doesn’t appeal to me I go to the next article. Please keep writing articles. RV Travel would not exist without you and all of the other writers
Just like 16 months ago when this article first ran, I love your writing and the experiences you share in your stories. Keep up the great work.
Happy trails. ✌️😎
Stay the course Nanci – with due diligence, watch for new opportunities to apply your exceptional talents to. The majority of the reader/commenters here are behind you – just keep those negatvists, (is that a word? Short for “negative people”!), out of your life.
“Sniping from the bushes.” That’s how I describe it. It’s a safe way for Beta males to attack without fear of physical harm. Or females frustrated because they married a Beta, without realizing it. In either case, ignore the pitiful creatures, and don’t let it ruin your day. Every now and then, one of us Alphas gets the opportunity to inflict genuine pain. Helps me sleep at night…<BWSG>
Thanks Nanci for all your articles; truly enjoy them. They are well written, insightful and honest. Ignore the naysayers … I believe in the adage “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Have a gr8 day.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
Dalai Lama
Hi Nanci. Hey, great article and oh so true about people teeing off on other peoples comments.. I and many others share your sentiment. I think part of the problem is that there are too many people out there who put things in writing that just want to hear themselves talk. Admittedly, many people will provide an adverse comment to what they perceive from another to be irresponsible, illogical or just plain dumb. So again, your point is well taken !!! — keep on writing because Natalie and I completely enjoy your viewpoint! You’re a very upbeat person , and I’m sure the majority of your readers would agree with our comment and feelings. Have a great day.
I still feel there are way more nice people than mean, bad and ornery folks. I just try to kill them with sweetness! It usually works. Now the online bullies are just too common ~ other than blocking and or deleting them I don’t know the answer.
Its always the right time to be courteous and nice. We don’t meet many mean spirited, but when we do, we just say, they must have taken a grouch or mean pill this morning.
Thank you, Nanci! I agree with you that the internet/computer-world we have does tend to make/allow people to rashly say things they are unlikely to say in person. Interestingly, as I read this article, this video appeared on my television expressing much the same sentiment at the outset; let’s be respectful to one another (https://youtu.be/5D7RvKw3wDY?feature=shared). Have a great day and safe travels!
Our society in “in the toilet”. What happened? Social media and drugs. I was born in 1948. I’ve lived in the North, South, and West from the 1950’s until now. I’ve been in every State except Hawaii. I’ve noticed people in the North are cold shouldered until you get to know them. People in the South are very friendly, and adults were addressed as sir and mam. Out West, where I live now, people are also friendly. Then the Vietnam War happened, and drugs! And a few years ago, social media. The hate started, and mostly unfounded. Question is, will the hate turn around? I don’t think so.
the big one….social media. People write/ say things that would have gotten them slapped if it was ever said face to face. Anonymity makes the morally weak more vocal and mean spirited
Thank you Nanci for your articles. I always manage to find something in them that applies to me. I have also noticed that manners have slowly been disappearing and most noticeably since Covid. Frustration with not having any control over the things that upset a person seems to find an outlet via social media. I would like to hope that people will begin to improve their behavior though I think that as long as the ill-mannered are not called out as you have done, their boorish behavior will continue. Please do not become disheartened as there are many that support you and would miss you if you allowed the negative nellies to drive you away.
I have the same question about the group https://nextdoor.com. It’s supposed to be a place for neighbors to share information to help each other, but the same thing happens where some people are just cruel and mean. And just like what you’ve seen, people are beginning their posts with no negative comments please. It’s a sad state of affairs.
Nanci,
You are one of the reasons I keep coming back to these newsletters. I appreciate you, your articles, and the knowledge and experiences you share. Please keep it up and don’t let the nastiness deter you.
Never let the snakes nature change your nature.
The word anonymous came to one’s mind when reading this author’s article asking why individuals posts hurtful, mean spirted comments. On-line social media outlets are easy to post a “you’re an idiot” without fear of being called out on it. Yes, one is able to post a reply to the droit comments, but the original poster is still concealed behind a cyber wall. I actually, enjoy most articles written within this RV Travel, one may not always agree but isn’t that the point? Agree to disagree and still have a cup of coffee.
Nobody should ever have to start a post with ‘please be nice’ or ‘don’t be mean’. Nanci, I find your articles to be some of the most informative & well written on this site. I admit to skipping over articles that maybe don’t interest me a lot but I almost always read yours. I don’t know when it became ok for people to be so mean & rude, seems that for a lot kindness & empathy are a lost art. Don’t let them get to you, the majority of us really enjoy your articles!