Dear RV Shrink:
My wife has been upset with me ever since we bought our 5th wheel and started traveling. I don’t know if it’s because we are seeing too much of each other or just the few problems we have had. She said to me, “There are things I love about you that you never do anymore.” I said, “Like what?” She said, “Like being gone.” Is that normal?
She is also saying I am in the first stages of Alzheimer’s. That really upsets me because it isn’t true. Okay, I guess I will never hear the last of dragging my satellite dish down I-75 but that was nothing but human error, and besides, it still works. Do you think our problem is just too much togetherness? My wife and I both love the RV lifestyle but maybe not so much with each other. I hope you can shed some light on our plight. —Odd Couple in Carlsbad
Dear Odd Couple:
You sound perfectly normal to me. I hear this togetherness theory often. Many couples spend their working lives apart for major portions of each day. They also seem to have different responsibilities in the relationship. When those collide during retirement or travel, sparks often fly until the turf wars are fought and decisions and compromises result. Do not try to micro manage each other, create a checklist, and have a few separate interests that give each of you some space and alone time. “Take a hike” can often be good advice. A checklist can solve disastrous events like forgetting to put your satellite dish away. I have to admit, that one would make me suspect of your condition, but scat happens. Look for each other’s strengths and weaknesses and help each other by sharing responsibilities that seem to be your strong suit. For instance, let your wife put the satellite dish away when you pack up to leave. —Keep Smilin’, RV Shrink
The RV Shrink is not really a psychologist. But he does know a lot.